In Love With Someone Who Doesn’t Want Commitment
Being in love with someone who says commitment isn’t for them can stir up deep questions. You may care about him, picture a life together, and even believe he loves you, but now you’re facing the reality that he doesn’t want to be committed, and you’re left wondering what that means for your future.
Step 1: Get Clear on What You Really Want
If you desire marriage and commitment, and he doesn’t, that difference matters. It’s important to ask: Am I hoping he’ll change, or am I accepting who he is right now?
Many women stay in relationships waiting for the other person to come around — only to feel confused or hurt later. Take some time to think through what marriage represents to you. Is it emotional safety? A foundation for family? Shared values?
If he’s not open to that future, it may be time to consider whether you’re building the kind of life you truly want or postponing it in hopes that he will change.
Step 2: Don’t Internalize His Refusal as a Reflection of Your Worth
When someone you love doesn’t want to take the next step, it can feel personal. You might start to question whether you’re enough, or wonder what you could do differently. But often, when a man resists commitment, it has more to do with his own fears, mindset, or experiences. It does not reflect your value.
You deserve commitment if that’s what you desire. And you don’t have to shrink your hopes to fit someone else’s limitations.
Step 3: Understand the Cost of Staying
Sometimes staying in a relationship where he doesn’t want to be committed means putting your life on hold, emotionally and practically. If commitment and long-term stability are important to you, this disconnect can lead to future frustration.
You have the right to make decisions that reflect your values, even if that means stepping away from someone you love.
If You’re Pregnant and He Doesn’t Want Commitment
Finding out you’re pregnant can make this situation more difficult. You may be thinking, Can I do this alone? Should I move forward with the pregnancy?
You don’t have to figure everything out all at once. However, confirming the pregnancy and getting accurate information is the best place to begin.
At Problem Pregnancy Center, we offer:
- Free pregnancy tests to help verify the pregnancy.
- Free limited ultrasounds (if you qualify) to let you know how far along you are and confirm that the pregnancy is developing normally in the uterus. This helps you understand how far along you are in the pregnancy and what your options are.
- Confidential options counseling to help you learn about all of your available options.
If you’re unsure about continuing the pregnancy, either because he doesn’t want to be committed or for other reasons, we’re here to help you take the first step in making an informed choice. You’ll receive clarity and support in a safe environment.
